Consciously or unconsciously all of us have this art and have experienced during our lifetime.....just refreshing. Basic principles & understanding about friendship and relationships based on Sastra or Scriptures.
1. Any relationship can breakup anytime in our life: bandhu-jñāty-ari-madhyastha-mitrodāsīna-vidviṣaḥ
Translation: In this material world, which advances like a river that carries away the living entity, all people become friends, relatives and enemies in due course of time. (Śrīmad-bhāgavatam 6.16.5, vedabase.com ). It is wise therefore, to stay a bit detached in general.
2. We can't be friends with everyone: We can have many fans, followers or admirers through social media & social gathering but not real friends.....Have Five Good Real Friends.
Who’s a friend in the truest sense? Someone who makes our heart experience sneha means affection. What is sneha?......When the inner self melts on seeing, touching, hearing or conversing with an individual, one is said to be experiencing sneha, affection. (Subhāṣita-ratna-bhāṇḍāgāram)
Śāstra says that success in the domain of friendship is attained when we have five such intimate friends.......One should travel with five friends, stay with five friends and converse with five friends, thereby avoiding all distress.
3. We can have long lasting friendship & relationships with like minded people. ( there is always exception ).
Deers roam around with deers; cows with cows; horses with horses; fools with fools and intelligent with intelligent. Friendship is between individuals of similar disposition and habits (Pañcatantra 1.305). We should have respect for saints or person superior in knowledge, sympathy for foolish and friendship who is in equality.
4. Warning in friendship.
Translation: If you desire abundant, long-lasting friendship then do not perform the following three acts — (1) trying to win an argument against the friend, especially in public, (2) entering into any sort of financial contracts/business deals with the friend and (3) flirting with their spouse. (Subhāṣita-ratna-bhāṇḍāgāram)
5. Keeping secrets in friendship.
Birth-defects, oversleeping, laziness, and other faults, if present in a friend should never be spoken to others. One should especially never disclose such things publicly (Prapannāmṛta, 65.50).....we should publicly protect them, but privately we should reveal our honest thoughts to them without worrying. It is the duty of an individual to rescue a friend who may have gone astray:
6. Test of real Friendship during distress.
Translation: A friend is like blissful nectar for the eyes. He gives great joy to the heart. He takes our happiness and distress as his own. Such friends are indeed rare to find. Other so called “well-wishers” who gather around us in friendly weather only out of some selfish expectations are finally put through the litmus test when we face situations of distress. (Hitopadeśa, 1.214).
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I am inspire to hear & read Vedic Scriptures & other philosophy by regularly listening Sri Pandurang Shashtri Athvale known as Dadaji ( speak on Srimad Bhagavad Gita, Veda based discourses & western philosophy ) and association of Swadhyay Parivar every Sunday in Swadhya Kendra.
FYI: Good source of Vedic literature: Vedabase.com (Srimad Bhagavad Gita is the essence & Srimad Bhagavatam (SB) is the nectar of all Vedic scriptures). Hearing & reading SB daily is purifying to our senses, nourishing & satisfying to our heart ( Soul ) and transcendental to our consciousness.
I also hear and read discourses & articles on Vedic thoughts & other philosophy from Srila Prabhupada, his disciples & grand disciples (Rasamitra Swami, Chaitanya Charandas Prabhu, Sutapa Das, Amarnath Dasa, Bhakticharu Swami, Urmila Devi Dasi, Radhanath Swami, Lal Govind Prabhu ( Gujarati & Hindi) Prahalad Maharaj in Surat (Gujarati) .......and many more from ISKCON......).
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It is always good idea to share our good thoughts & knowledge with others. Besides my parents, wife, teachers, family & friends GREATFUL to EVERYONE WHO HAVE CONTRIBUTED in MY LIFE.
Hopefully my enthusiasm will continue by grace of Guru & God (Absolute Truth).
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